This opportunity is for couples who realize that their depth of presence, connection, intimacy, love and fulfillment in their relationship are limited.
This is also great for couples who feel like they've been stuck in survival mode in their relationship and want to finally be able to feel safe, secure, stable, connected and experience calm, joy, love and passion (again).
Phase 1: Basic De-escalation Skills
I equip you with interventions that prove to support your brain’s natural ability to shift the brain out of the survival states that cause fight, flight, freeze, faint and fawn reactions and behaviors in relationships and shift into a regulated state where curiosity, growth, compassion, insight, clarity and perspective naturally and quickly occur. During this phase, I will assess the fit of the interventions with you to ensure that you have one(s) that offer(s) observable benefits consistently.
This is different from traditional "talk therapy" strategies which only engage the conscious mind and do not directly affect change in brain function nor regulate the nervous system. This is powerfully transformational and change begins to take place within the first moments.
This phase takes about 1 to 2 sessions.
Phase 2: De-Escalation
We look at the stressors showing up in your relationship and I'll support you to reduce and resolve the distress and reactivity showing up in these moments so that as they occur you are able to maintain your own safety, security and calm, stay connected through hard topics without harming each other and create a new environment of safety and health in which your relationship can heal, strengthen and/or grow. I also train you to use these strategies yourself so you can keep using them between our sessions and even after our work together is done.
This phase takes about 5 to 20 sessions.
Phase 3: Relationship Synergy
Here, we'll work together to build in, repair or upgrade important healthy relationship skills that are specific to your relationship and required to deepen the depth of presence, communication, connection, intimacy, love and fulfillment in your relationship.
This phase takes about 5 to 15 sessions.
Phase 4: Expand
We'll look at the specific goals you and your partner envision yourselves accomplishing together as well as the desires you want to fulfill together and we’ll use the skills from phases 1, 2 and 3 as well as some additional strategies to uncover and resolve any obstacle to achieving these.
This phase takes about 3 to 15 sessions.
Phase 5: Ongoing Support
I'll support you as you integrate the shifts we have created together. New opportunities for healing, growth or expansion will likely be revealed throughout your life journey and I'm available support you through these issues as well so that you thrive and realize more of your vision for your life.
The number and frequency of sessions during this phase is determined by the individual or couple.